Today is not about weight loss. Today is a rant. Some days I’m entitled to that and since this is my blog, it is RANT day. I ask if you want to rant….do it….Leave your ranting comments….
I have been reading last evening and today that Sally Ride was gay. OK, can someone explain to me why this matters? When someone dies is it necessary to say they are gay or straight? Will my obituary say “Tammie was survived by her heterosexual husband Mark? Why does it become such a big deal? Being gay is not <insert gasp> something that people should have to hide.
My comment to one of Hunter’s friends this week was “BE WHO YOU ARE!” She was being rude over a text to me and when she found out she was texting an adult, I got a QUICK apology. I told her that it didn’t matter that she thought she was talking to another teenager. You should never talk differently to different people. BE WHO YOU ARE…. If you are a jerk to your friends and not in front of the adults, then you are not authentic. If you want to be a jerk then by all means, be a jerk and be proud! If you want people to respect you then be respectful to others.
This world has played games too long. Everyone is afraid to be themselves. I don’t understand. I used to tell my mom when I was a teenager, “don’t ask me if you REALLY don’t want to know the truth.” Meaning…I won’t lie but if you can’t handle the truth don’t ask because I WILL tell you. I’ve tried to instill this in my children.
I’ve raised them to be proud of “who” they are and if they aren’t, CHANGE IT. Luckily, it is in their own hands to be “who” they want to be. No one else holds the key to “who” or “what” you want to be other than the person in the mirror. I’ve tried to explain to my son, “you may be the only Jesus some of your friends may ever see….what do you want them to see?” Don’t claim one thing and then show another.
When I was in high school we called the drug people “heads”. I don’t know why but that was what we called them. Everyone knew who the heads were and if you wanted something we all knew where to go. Why? Because, these people were authentic. While I never enlisted they services, I respected them because they weren’t afraid to be what they were. I always spoke to them and they always spoke to me. We had a mutual respect that they were who they were and I was who I was and we didn’t step on one another’s toes. On a side note, the best news I have received this year is that one of the main “heads” has turned his life around and is now a leader in his church! It proves that if you want to change you can and if you don’t, you don’t have to. He is accepted for WHAT he is.
How do you want people to see you? Are you showing the world what you want them to see or what you truly are? At the end of the day you can only be happy by being yourself and being authentically you. You are a special person to someone. Sally Ride chose to be seen as what she was, a smart, goal setting, mentor and intelligent woman. Those around her knew she was a gay woman and she didn’t “hide”. I like the fact that before her death it didn’t matter because now that she is dead it still doesn’t matter. If you are judging her on what she chose in her personal life what does that say about you? Are you “open” to the people around you about how you feel? Are you “open” in your judgment? Can you lie your head down at night worried about whether or not you’ve offended someone or can you lie there and know that if you did, it was exactly how you felt and they will have to reconcile it? BE WHO YOU ARE! BE IT, STAND ON IT, BE PROUD!
